Breaking myself in

Last night was my first time “officially” sarging, here in NYC. I had gotten in contact with a couple of guys on the MM forum and luckily one of them was generous enough to take a newbie out on the town.

When Steve arrived at the bar we were to meet at, he asked me if I had my one opener and neg memorized. I said that I had made up an opener for tonight. He was skeptical, but after I tried it on him, he convinced me to use a canned one. I’ve been deathly afraid of using canned material for the reason of possibly being found out, but I ended up going for the jealous girlfriend because it’s the first one that came to mind.

Then Steve proceeded to thrust me into sets. I watched him work one or two at the beginning, but then afterwards it was pretty much him coaching me along.

Two things I found out about sarging: 1: no one really ever has heard the openers already, or if so they don’t say they have (one girl actually did say “how weird a guy asked me that same question at a party about a month ago!” to which I responded “oh good so what did you tell him?”) And 2. getting blown out of a set isn’t that big of a deal, actually it’s nothing compared to approach anxiety, which is ironic because that’s where it comes from.

On a day where I just came to the bar to drink I would have done a little bit better I think, just stumbling through sets, but because of repetition I noticed right away I was seeing patterns in their responses and that I was stone-cold sober which was new for me in terms of picking up girls. That is a breakthrough.

So, in brief, sticking points I noted were that I needed to have more canned material, learn how to neg properly (apparently sometimes I flat-out insult), and not be afraid to ad-lib when I get stuck and try to keep the set. I approached probably about 20 sets last night at various clubs, but there were probably only two or three where I felt like I really learned something, and those were the ones where I wanted to leave but PUA Steve kept saying “keep going” or “say something else” to me.

I've taken the Pepsi challenge.