So last night I went out with some buddies, had too much to drink and got my game on. One thing bothers me in retrospect that I haven’t had the courage to get past--I have too much approach anxiety for anyone over an HB7. There were only probably three girls at that bar that were in that range, an HB8, HB 8.5 and another 8. What’s wrong with me? I know the material! I thought to myself. I knew it works (in theory) but I’d have to practice putting it to work. This afternoon, I got to put some of it to use on a HB8.5.
I went to my favorite coffee shop. There’s a girl named Sandra there who’s not too cute but pretty interesting to talk to, so I thought I would stop by to say hello. I walked in, Sandra wasn’t there. The UG at the counter recognized me. I said “hi, I’ll be a minute…” and walked to the bathroom to wash my hands and face (paranoid of smelling like my 2 for $1 hotdog lunch—times are tight these days).
I come out, and I notice that the one HB that works at this coffee shop is sitting in the back. She’s an HB8.5 and my TARGET from here on out. I’ve never gotten her attention before, never found a way to get her to talk to me. I’d tried talking to her friends, being jovial and friendly with the counter girls, still, she’s never even looked in my direction. This time I was planning to use some chick crack as bait, though, and experiment with some soft game.
I shoot the shit with the UG for a few seconds and make a point not to look up at the TARGET, who’s reading a novel or something a good 10 feet away. “is Sandra in today?” I asked the UG. “no, she’s not in today…bla bla bla” etc. I pull out this book I got from the library. “oh, I wanted to show her something, I got this cool book from the library that uses your favorite colors as a personality test!”
Byt this point, I’ve been pretty friendly to the UG who has always been a bit on the unfriendly side, not a lot of people are nice or inquisitive to her. I can tell out of the corner of my eye that the TARGET notices that I’m winning her friend over. Talking about the personality test is too much for her, she comes over and sort of “cockblocks” the UG, which is so shockingly predictable that I didn’t see it coming.
TARGET – Ooh that’s so cool! I want to try!
She leans over the counter towards me, a smile beaming ear-to-ear. I’m not giving her IOI’s back.
In my mind I’m wondering how I can get the UG back in because I realize she’s the key to really getting the TARGET interested in me, but she seems to have conceded to the TARGET (she’s most definitely used to this sort of thing) However, I wasn’t fast enough so I went on doing the game with the TARGET. She picked violet or blue or something, I don’t really remember. Anyway, I turn to the page for her colors and start reading to her “you’re a hard worker…bla bla bla, etc..” It said in the book that she was “optimistic” and I turned to her then and said “you don’t seem optimistic at all to me.” She giggled-- weak neg but I guess it worked.
I tried to get back to the UG, read her colors and started giving personality reading, but because she was working she was walking away and I realized I didn’t project my voice loud enough and lost my authority. Anyway, the TARGET’s interest had waned a bit, and I excused myself before it got to zero. “Well, I have to get to reading this stuff now…”
I sat at an empty table and adjusted my body language to not appear to be addressing the ladies, then I start reading a book called Maximum Influence, which coincidentally reinforces everything I’ve been learning in Mystery Method and the Game. Eventually I got tired of reading and decided to leave, but I wanted to give another DHV and get some more conversation in before I left (its such a high when people are responding positively to you!!!)
I asked for a decaf coffee, UG said it’ll take 3 min, which I say is perfect, I have to get going soon anyway. The UG asked me what I was reading. I start telling her about the Maximum Influence book and how we dress and talk to people affects their ability to be influenced--basically I was telling her the principles of pick-up, but in the context of business networking instead.
Originally I wanted to try an opinion opener on them but couldn’t chickened out on using the canned material.
Anyway, I wasn’t sure the TARGET was going to talk to me anymore, but just then from across the counter she asks “What’s your name?” and I almost fell over from the shock of the IOI. I told her, and then took my coffee and shot the shit with the UG a bit more and then the TARGET came over and I asked if they knew where there was a Big 5 or a Guitar Center nearby so that I could pick up strings for my guitar and a chin-up bar. I smiled at them both, asked their names and then walked away.
Over all, I was amazed that I had actually gotten some attraction from a girl who I thought was really cute. While drinking I’ve never had problems getting the attention of the girls I wanted to talk to but I naturally gravitate towards 7’s and 6’s because they tend to be less bitchy to me. This was really eye-opening and I suddenly understood that its possible for me to attract a girl who before I would have written off as a bitch.
NEXT I have to think of ways to win over the guy who works at the coffee shop, because I’ve noticed that usually the TARGET is working with this one particular dude who’s highly likely to cockblock me. I don’t suspect that chick crack will work as well on him.
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